Officially a Wife!

Alhamdulillah.

First and foremost, I would like to send my highest gratitude to Allah S.W.T. for sending him into my life. Thank you very much to my family, all my relatives and also friends who had helped me with all the preparations and also for attending the wedding. It was a very tiring week, but Alhamdulillah, the happiness that comes after it is definitely worth it.

If I want to talk about my feelings on that day, I am sure that there are a lot of things that I want to write. My week started with a fever, bad runny nose and cough which is quite usual for me. I am diagnosed with allergies since I was a small child so I have a very high tendency to fall in sick whenever I overwork myself, or if am exposed to cold environment. I guess, it is quite hard being 'me'.

Because of the fever that I have during the whole week, I didn't manage to finish up sewing my veil for the solemnization day. So what I did was, I wake up super early on the day of solemnization and finish up sewing the veil as fast as I can. Then, iron my outfit and take a bath. After I am done with dressing up myself, I can only sit in the room and wait for the arrival of the groom. I kinda feel bored, but undoubtedly nervous at the same time.

I can't actually find any words that can describe my feeling at that time but one thing for sure, I am not able to cry at the moment when he said "Aku terima nikahnya...." even though I am touched with the lafaz. I want to cry for sure but I am not able to because I am still down with fever even when I am sitting there on the dais. I wonder how bad my headache will be if I cry. And yeah, in case if any of you wonder... I definitely feel nervous when I heard the lafaz. Alhamdulillah, he only did it once.

However, until today I still can't believe that I am a wife. :p

p/s: We have been married for twelve days! Hope that it can last until twelve decades. :D

I just pour my heart out

I've been having these mixed up feeling for a while now. The days for the wedding is getting near. Somewhat, towards the end I feel glad that I agree to the sudden proposal he made several years ago. A really sudden proposal, when you've just being a close friend with him for around 3 months? Crazy, right? And even I just agree without thinking. You could say, I have a hunch that I should say yes.

Who would've ever taught that the person who is actually your long-lost childhood friend will be your partner through life. If I were to say, I don't really know him before. It is only about him remembering me for all these years even though I am not very sure of his existence. As I met him from years to years, I always thought that he's very arrogant. Even though there are only both of us standing side by side, he still won't utter a word. As I learn more about him, it turns out that he didn't really speak to girls. Its not that he's arrogant, he's actually just being shy which actually makes him looks cute.

After we have engaged, I started to learn more and more about him. As in when is his birthday, what his taste is like, what had happened in his past, etc. etc. To me, he has a very amazing character in which is totally different from me. Kind of the exact opposite.

I love to talk.
He love to listen.
I am quite a lazy bum.
He is very hardworking.
I get angry easily.
He is very calm.

He didn't particularly like reading.
I love books.
He love vegetables.
I am choosy with veges that I want to eat.
He's from Kuala Kangsar in which rich of Durians.
I can't eat Durian, I won't, and I can't even smell them.

In sum, he's the exact opposite.


There's only 6 weeks and 6 days left until our wedding day. I hope that everything will go on smoothly and we can paint our marriage with the colors of rainbows. InsyaAllah. :)

Things just add up, and actually leave me broken.

It has been a while since the last time I wrote things here. Its not that I'm busy or anything but I've been trying to move on with my life actually, really. 

It has also been a while since I wrote a post with tears over my cheeks.

Do you know how tiring it can be when you feel that your existence is actually meaningless? I've been trying to move over these feelings for years. I've tried to commit suicide once, and I don't think that I'll ever do that again. I have more faith in my religion now than I have before. But, I just had to admit that this built up feeling just seems to become worse. For 20 years, I've been living with a wall between me and others. I had survived that way. To be precise, that is the only way for me to survive after having had to go through childhood that is worst than nightmare, being beaten to a pulp, having had to see your own blood drops from your head, and still being alive with all the blame on your shoulder. Yes, I am broken that way without even having the slightest feeling of compassion towards others.

As I reach 19-years of my life, I've became more desperate into solving this one problem of mine. I was lucky to have met the only one person who is actually able to climb and stay in my side of the wall. He knows me for who I am, accept me for who I was, what I did, and guide me on who I should become. The first thing he taught me at that time is to crack a hole on the wall and see the things that I've missed for 20 years of my life.

I believe in him.

So I decided to crack a hole and see for myself. At first I thought it was amazing but I think I've had enough. As true as I am able to see others, they are also able to see me. People will never change and they will just add on the pain that I've tried so hard to overcome. I've had enough of being labelled, suppressed and blame. And to think of it, by people who actually should be called as 'family'.  I respect them for who they are, where they stand but I don't think I'll ever be able to break the wall or even create a larger hole on it. In fact, I will patch it up. I think its enough for me to stay on my side of the wall with him, without ever having the slightest intention of stepping out of the shadow.

I wonder if there will ever be a sun in which will shine on this side of the wall? 

 p/s: Opening up your heart to others can actually make it bleed you know?